I was named after my father, Antonio and until the 8th grade I went by that name. During the less tolerant 70’s, when I started High School I intentionally started going by Tony in a deliberate attempt to not sound so ethnic. To this day, only my family calls me Antonio but I would never answer to Anthony—I still cross it out if it appears on official documents. My wife’s father’s name was Anthony but he also went by Tony (I never knew him). Their first and only son, Anthony was named after the Father, and tragically died at the age of two years old. My wife was born shortly after and named after her mother Hedwig (both go by “Hedy”). I met my “Mother-in-Law-to-be” twenty-seven years ago when I was dating my future bride and when her father died of stomach cancer. We married several years later and for decades my Mother-in-Law would call me Tony. About six years ago, she was diagnosed with lung cancer and would suffer through several bouts of the disease with treatments and surgery. In recent years, she started calling me Anthony and she would smile. I would answer smiling back in recognition and moved by the idea of being included in the company of those she regarded with affection. The name Hedwig comes from the Polish Jadwiga (also Yadwiga) and lately has been associated with “The Angry Inch” or the owl from Harry Potter. Older generations will relate more to Hedy (Hedwig) Eva Maria Lamarr, actress and inventor of an early technique for frequency hopping; which paved the way for today’s wireless communications. My Mother-in-Law, Hedy was born in Jersey City, NJ in 1932 during the Great Depression—the youngest of her siblings who were among the “Greatest Generation” with some serving in WWII. Her husband was also the youngest of his siblings and served in the Korean War. She had an insatiable sweet tooth and enjoyed watching the “Housewives of Beverly Hills” but most of all she adored children. In January, while undergoing radiation treatment for brain cancer at Robert Wood Hospital in New Brunswick, NJ, she was asked to recall one of her happiest moments. Without hesitation she spoke about a wedding she attended and remembered the peach dress she wore. She said the music was very good—she loved to dance.